Marriage coaching with Terry & Katie McCabeStop living like roommates.
A lot of couples are out of practice more than they're out of love. We help you find your way back to each other, with real tools and a real team walking it with you.
Laying next to each other and still feeling lonely.
You may not realize it, but a lot of couples are dealing with the same thing. We get so caught up in the house, the kids and the homework that we forget we were friends who had fun together. Just because it's common doesn't mean it's healthy, and if it's unhealthy, we want to help you make it healthy.
We've been the couple that needed help.
After nearly losing our own marriage, we set out to learn what actually heals disconnection and builds lasting closeness.
We're certified marriage coaches working with couples all over the world, and the creators of the Couples Revival Challenge. Faith is at the center of our home, and we bring it in for couples who want it.
Marriage was never meant to be survived. It was meant to be enjoyed, by both of you.
Terry & Katie
Gottman trained · Prepare & Enrich certified
Real people helping real people.
It starts with one conversation.
Coaching is different from traditional counseling. Rather than ongoing sessions just to talk, we focus on what's driving the disconnect, get clear on what needs to change, and give you practical steps to get there.
In their words.
We are becoming closer than ever.
We were in a bad place and vicious cycle of resentment for years that we didn't know how to get out of. Now, we have a new excitement about our marriage that we didn't know was possible.
Justin & Wendi
They brought hope to our family.
We began coaching during a critical time, pregnant with our third. After every session, we walked away with new skills that directly addressed our communication and conflict resolution.
Rich & Megan
Our marriage is 1000% better.
We've grown so much in our understanding of each other, learned ways to feel seen and heard, are dating again, and have made regular communication part of our daily routine.
John & Lisa
There's a next step for you.
Coached by couples who've been there.
Keith & Bethany
Raul & JennaMarriage coaching questions.
Are marriage coaches worth it?
For a lot of couples, yes, especially when you both still care and keep landing in the same fights or the same distance. Coaching is worth it when it gives you something to do differently at home, with someone holding you to it. That's how we run it, and the free conversation is there so you can decide if it fits before you invest anything.
How is marriage coaching different from counseling?
Counseling often works through the past and where the hurt started. Coaching looks forward, with practical steps and accountability. The full answer →
How do you save a marriage when only one is trying?
You start with yourself, and that's more powerful than it sounds. A lot of the couples we coach started with one spouse reaching out first. The full answer →
Why do I feel like a roommate in my marriage?
Usually because life got loud. We get so caught up in the house and the kids that we forget we were friends who had fun together. You may not realize it, but a lot of couples are dealing with the same thing, and it's very fixable when you catch it.
What are the signs of roommate syndrome in a marriage?
You talk mostly about logistics, and you rarely touch without a reason. You're polite with each other and you can't remember the last time you felt like best friends. Our free guide, From Roommates Back to Best Friends, walks you through the first conversation that starts turning it around.
How do you fix disconnection in a marriage?
Start small and on purpose. Fifteen minutes of real conversation with the phones down does more than a big weekend away, as long as it happens every week. The distance built up slowly, and closeness comes back the same way, one small choice at a time.
What is the 7-7-7 rule for marriage?
It's a popular rule of thumb: a date night every 7 days, a weekend away every 7 weeks and a trip every 7 months. We like the heart of it, which is planning time together before life fills the calendar. If the whole thing feels impossible right now, start with the 7 days part and protect it.
At what point is a marriage not salvageable?
That's a decision only the two of you can make, and we'd never push anyone to stay somewhere they aren't safe. What we see over and over is that couples who still care, even a little, have more to work with than they think. If you're asking this question, it's worth one honest conversation with our team before you decide anything.
What destroys marriages the most?
Slow drift does more damage than any single blowup. Small hurts that never get talked about turn into resentment, and resentment teaches you to stop reaching for each other. The good news is that drift can be reversed once you can see the pattern.
Can you do marriage coaching online?
Yes. All of our coaching happens on video calls, so you can work with us from anywhere. Where we're based →
What happens on the free conversation?
A free video call with our team about where the two of you are and whether coaching fits. What to expect and who you'll talk to →
Is McCabe Life coaching faith-based?
Faith is a big part of who we are, and it shows up naturally for couples who want it. Couples from every background work with us.
It's time to start again.
Tell us where you are. We'll point you to the step that fits, free guide or coaching.
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